When it comes to having a completely unique celebration tailored to your own personality I’m here to show you what’s possible and give you the most wonderful ideas! One the years as a photographer, I have been lucky enough to photographer many unique weddings.
If you and your partner feel you don’t fit into having a typically traditional wedding then an alternative wedding may be more up your street. Below you’ll find a few of the alternative ways you can celebrate your love and have a wedding that is truly unique – and you!
When you throwing the rulebook out on planning a traditional wedding it can be daunting where to start! First, think about why you are getting married? What you want to do as a couple on your day? Being clear on a vision for your wedding and asking yourself those important questions is the best way to start the planning for your alternative wedding.
Questions to ask yourselves as a couple should be along the lines of:
“What defines you as a couple?”
“What do you want your wedding day to represent?”
“What kind of style do you have?”
“What’s the overall vision of the day?”
“What are your non-negotiables?’
Once you have answered those questions you’ll have a better idea of the kind of day you are putting together and will help you make decisions down the line during the planning process.
The beauty of having an alternative wedding is that anything goes! Here’s some ideas to help you when it comes to planning an alternative wedding that’s memorable – even in years to come!
Have a non-traditional ceremony
Alternative wedding ceremonies can be anything you want them to be. If you aren’t the church type or traditional manor house kind of couple then choose somewhere that represents you as a couple. You can also set the timings of your day. Always fancied a twilight wedding? Then do it, it’ll make for some gorgeous and romantic images! Want to make your wedding a weekend affair, go for it!
Choose an alternative theme
Themes are really fun! Choosing a theme will make it easier to choose colour schemes, venue choice, entertainment and much more! They can be incorporated as much or as little as you like and can really reflect you as a couple. Themed weddings don’t need to be tacky – you can incorporate your chosen theme in elegant ways and really create a memorable experience for your guests.
Wear alternative outfits
You want to feel your absolute best on your wedding day – and what better excuse than your wedding to wear whatever you want to! There’s no rulebook – wear what makes you feel fabulous. You don’t even need to wear white! Choose outfits that will compliment each other but find ways to infuse your personalities in your choices for the day. Coloured wedding dresses or suits, leather jackets, fabulous shoes, stand out neckwear, alternative bouquets – the options are endless!
One of the things that people remember about your wedding long after the day is the entertainment. There are so many quirky and alternative entertainment options out there from space hoppers to palm readers to a salsa class. Having alternative entertainment will not only make your wedding stand out from the crowd it’s a really easy way for you to get your personality across in a fun way.
Group Photographs If you don't want to have formal photographs taken on you wedding day - no problem! If you are hiring a photographer for their natural style, have them capture you and your wedding guests naturally enjoying themselves on your day.
Hire a celebrant or have a friend conduct your ceremony
A celebrant is someone who can perform your wedding for you. Although in the UK celebrants or close friends don’t have the power to legally marry you, they have the unique privilege of being able to conduct a truly unique and completely personalised ceremony.
Be YOU! The most important alternative wedding advice
The most important piece of advice I can give you when planning any kind of wedding or special event is to be you! Don’t give into having traditional elements that mean nothing to you – or worse make you feel uncomfortable – just because you feel you should. There are often pressures from family or friends to have a particular kind of wedding, but just keep in mind it is your day. At the end of the day, what matters is celebrating your love for each other. Your day can be as alternative as you like, as long as you’re doing that than the rest doesn’t matter!